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Venus Quincunx Neptune

You just can’t seem to stop replaying that comment they made over and over in your mind. It’s time to figure out why.–astrology.com

In the past obsessive thinking was a frequent occurrence for me, interfering with my sleep and with my ability to focus on important tasks throughout the day. I used to obsess about lots of things—my son’s care, my career path, my son’s father. These days I only seem to get stuck on certain tender areas in my relationships. When this happens I have to be careful to take time to let the obsession pass before I try to talk about the upset I’m feeling. I can’t hear the voice of Spirit when my own inner child is wailing.

So I focus on being in the PRESENT. 99% of the time I am obsessing about the FUTURE. I keep bringing my mental focus back to whatever creative task or project I am working on, using the energy of obsession to fuel the fire of creation. I don’t repress my feelings, but only give myself 15 minutes a couple of times a day to really feel, so that I don’t get stuck in my obsession again. I also pray, meditate, journal, and do movement practice. After all of that, Spirit usually helps me to let go, and the obsession lifts. It’s a miracle to have obsession lift without anything being resolved, and to feel love and joy in living flow through my heart once again.

Romantic Daily Couples Horoscope

Even after lots and lots of discussion, there’s not much movement in the desired direction — whether they’re being stubborn or you are. Find a new way to get around this impasse. –astrology.com

When my beloved and I have differing desires about something, I do my best to say clearly what I want, and what my concerns are, without making his desires wrong. When it is more on the side of something I am doing that is a concern for him, I am learning to listen carefully to his concerns and do my best to see if there is any space in me for doing things differently.

When discussion isn’t working, then we have to agree to disagree for the time being, to let go of the outcome of our conversations. At that point I go and meditate, pray, talk to my trusted mentor, and take a shamanic journey to see if there is any new information, or any way that I can shift around the matter. Miracles often happen when I am willing to let go of forcing a solution. More than anything I prefer the win-win scenario to a compromise. A very wise friend of mine once said “Compromise is where you share the resentment 50-50”. Aho.

Daily Couples Horoscope

The two of you can have a terrific time doing just about anything now. Even running errands provides plenty of possibilities for funny moments, and working on a project together makes it twice as nice. –astrology.com

In the process of opening to share my life with a beloved, I thought long and hard about the qualities I wanted, the things that would create harmony between us. The list of things I wanted was pretty general, for example, I wanted a partner with whom I had emotional compatibility. Once I had my list, came the hard part, to refuse to date anyone who didn’t have those qualities—no matter how cute they were, or how pulled I felt, or how much they pursued me.

It was a challenging practice for me, to walk away from men that I was attracted to, but knew would not be good partners. How delightful it is that after all that, Spirit answered my call with someone who has many of the qualities that I hoped for, including the ability to PLAY. And it’s true, almost anything we do together is just a lot of fun. We have had many adventures together so far. I don’t think I’ve ever smiled and laughed so much with a partner, or felt so consistently light and happy. And I am grateful.

Daily Couples Horoscope

Your social energy is still strong, though it may wind down by mid-evening. Your partner may want to introduce you to some new people and you will almost certainly charm them.–astrology.com

Wow, what a weekend. My beloved and I were at a weekend festival together, and I had the opportunity to introduce him to a whole new segment of my friends. Sharing that was wonderful, and I can honestly say it’s the best experience of its kind that I’ve ever had.

What was different this time, as far as I can tell, is two things: 1. being there with a partner that I have a lot of compatibility with. 2. A firm intention on my part to take responsibility for my own emotional state.

One day while we were there, I woke up feeling a little cranky. I firmly told myself not to take it out on anyone else, especially my beloved. When it didn’t pass after a few hours, I took some alone time to soak in hot water and meditate. After that I was right as rain again. It’s like they say on the airplane, put on your OWN oxygen mask first.

Daily Couples Horoscope

A relationship with you is never easy to predict — or dull. Right now, the twists and turns you’re providing in the road the two of you are on together should be of the thrilling and wonderful kind! –astrology.com

The only way for me to navigate twists and turns is in total trust and safety. When I am riding with my beloved in his 4WD on dirt roads, all I do is laugh in sheer delight at the bumps and twists, because I know with him I am utterly SAFE. I am safe because I totally trust him. Our life journey together so far is the same. Whether it is our relationships with other lovers or our sacred sex practice or our choices about living, I just keep laughing in delight and ECSTASY as it unfolds.

My fear is so small in this relationship that I can let go of the need to be the predictable, reliable, stable, loyal one. I am FREE to be who I am because he trusts me. That trust didn’t happen overnight, we spent some time building it in the beginning. But now that we have it, it is allowing me to fly higher and take more risks than ever before. I never realized before how much energy I was spending trying to be safe and changing my behavior to keep my partner happy. Feeling safe with each other lets us joyfully twist and turn down the road together. And trust me, the ride is definitely a thrill!

Jupiter Opposition Asc

You’re quite focused on one particular area of your life now — the corner that houses your behavior in one-on-one relationships. Fortunately, things look pretty good in that department, and it’s easy to see how you might already know that. Carry on.–astrology.com

I spent the weekend in hyperawareness mode, spending time rooting out the unhealthy patterns in my relating to myself and others. I woke up Saturday feeling a little sad and couldn’t quite tell why. I didn’t feel jealous of my beloved spending time with another lover, but I felt this obsession kicking up about talking with him. It seemed a little out of proportion.

Like a miner searching for gold, I went excavating. I journaled, I read some of my favorite spiritual books about healthy relationship, and I talked to a trusted mentor. I found quickly that although I missed my beloved a bit, I was really mostly sad about some changes in my relationship with my son, and wanting contact with my beloved to push those feelings away. I love that when we did talk, I was able to simply share my sadness, and he could support me in staying with moving through it. By Saturday afternoon I was right as rain and ready to enjoy my weekend of time alone. Ahhhhh.

Mercury Conjunct Jupiter

Talk about lucky! There’s absolutely no way you can go wrong. Now, this doesn’t automatically give you that reason you’ve been looking for to hop on a flight for Vegas — but it sure isn’t a bad omen. Intelligent, well-calculated risks are definitely the order of the day. –astrology.com

Last night I talked with my beloved on the phone, and I just felt my heart melting. We have landed in this new and amazing place of deeper love with each other, and I just can’t seem to stop smiling. After we talked I fell asleep feeling him holding me and my heart was like a blazing cold fire. My cat, not normally a cuddler, snuggled in to me too, he wanted some of that beautiful energy! Out on my walk today, I still felt it. I was smiling at people like crazy, and they were smiling and waving back.

I AM lucky, there is no doubt about that. I love the way my beloved is cherishing me right now with his words and his actions. Finding him has been like finding my match. All these years of my life I’ve been dating and marrying pretty unconsciously. This feels like the first relationship that I’ve had where I’ve stayed completely in reality about who the other person is. As I am getting to know this man better, I feel not only love and trust and enjoyment in his company, but also an overwhelming LIKE for him. If we weren’t in love with each other, I would want to be his best friend for life. Yep, I’m not in Vegas, but I’ve definitely won the boyfriend lottery.

Mercury Trine Moon

After an especially hectic period, it’s high time you spent some quality time alone with you. Tend to your nest, order some take-out and soak your poor tired feet.

Because my beloved and I live in different cities about 2.5 hours apart, I have built-in time to come back to my center. Sometimes it’s hard to see the beauty in that because I miss him when we are apart. Two wise women friends suggested that it might help to keep my heart spiritually connected, and still continue my practice of disconnecting all the other cords between us. I decided to try it out over this last weekend. I noticed that I became much more loving when we were together, and that now while we are apart, I still feel so much love, even though he isn’t with me. Not only do I feel more love for him than ever before, but I feel love for everyone and everything that is radiating out from my keeping heart connection to him.

So yesterday while I was looking at a photo of us from our blissful weekend, my beloved sent me a beautiful loving text message, and I realized I hadn’t even missed him yet, was just loving him. And reading his message just amplified the love I was already feeling. I flowed with that love into a whole evening of pampering myself, and it felt good after traveling and playing so much to anchor into being taking a hot bath, putting on my pj’s, reading a book, and spending some quality time with my closest girlfriends. This morning, waking up alone, I had the luxury of time to go on a shamanic healing journey, and then walk through the garden smelling the orange blossoms. What a delight.

Sun Opposition Pluto

There’s absolutely no way you’ll be willing to settle for anything less than exactly what you want right now, and you’ll happily dismiss anyone who tries to talk you into negotiating.–astrology.com

Yesterday my heart felt so huge and glowing—a bliss high from my weekend. Today I still feel the glow, but it’s coming from knowing I am living the life of my dreams, from deciding not to settle for anything less than what I want in in my life, including my relationships. This isn’t how they tell us love works. They tell us that you meet someone and magickally fall in love. My experience is that when I have an irresistible attraction to someone, that the attraction often masks many incompatibilities, and leads to me losing my sense of what is right for me.

I’m having a really different experience right now of watching my relationship with my beloved grow slowly and gently, in stages. At each stage I gently stop and look to see whether this is still working for me. Is it what I want? And more important, is it what Spirit wants for me? So far the answer is a resounding YES. It feels good to know that never again will I settle for less than a full expression of the love I know I can create with another.

Pluto Sextile Moon

Better warn anyone who blushes easily to stand back and keep their eyes closed. You won’t hold yourself back — not from speaking your mind, and certainly not from acting on what’s in your heart. Expect to raise a few eyebrows — and at least one individual’s body temperature — in the process.–astrology.com

This weekend I spent four days in Mexico with my beloved, and with a community of beautiful loving people. We soaked in natural hot water springs with clothing completely optional. This was perhaps the first time I have let my beloved truly see both my wildness and my vulnerability. And he didn’t run away!

My heart stayed open as he explored connections with new women who might become lovers. I was so happy that I was able to enjoy watching him connect and create more love without sitting in a place of fear and jealousy. When fear came up, I was able to be vulnerable, to practice voicing it. He responded to me by holding me, sharing back with me, and telling me how wonderful I was. The best part was how he kept showing me the humor in all of it.

Oh what a gift it is to go deeper with my beloved and find that he and I can laugh at our fears together, that we can move through them to find the sweetness and joy of life!