Our Journey

Kypris:

When I met Steven I was in the midst of a deep training to discover the most essential part of being a woman. I was coming to grips with the knowledge that I had spent my entire life denying myself pleasure because I was holding on to old feelings of guilt and shame. When I met Steven I was profoundly struck by his ability to create a feeling of safety in me. I remember spending several hours at a party sitting next to him and feeling for the first time in my life the deep safety of a strong and healthy male presence. It was as if I was being held by a father who completely accepted all that I am. I felt safe, nurtured, and loved, even though I didn’t know him. As I did get to know Steven, I was struck by his healing touch—how he could put his hands on any part of my body that felt painful and help it to feel better. In lovemaking and tantric practice, I found that he had an intuitive sense of how to please me, and he has also taught me much about how to please a man. Working with him has brought deep release of the feelings that were keeping me from enjoying my sexuality as fully as I could, and the process of that healing continues to amaze me. I have recovered my ability to experience multiple orgasms and to ejaculate, as well as simply experiencing greater pleasure in the moments between those climaxes. I have learned how to relax into lovemaking instead of working so hard to feel a tiny bit of pleasure. Best of all, I have moved more and more into a complete feminine self-confidence and feeling of sexiness.

Steven:

On the first day I met Kypris she asked me, “If you could do anything you wanted, what would it be?”. I told her that I would like to be fully expressive of who I am to everyone I meet. For me that means coming to love my sexuality. This has not been an easy task in today’s society. I grew up a very sexual being, but was always terrified to express it. I was taught that my sexuality was to be kept in a box, only to be taken out occasionally in bed with my partner. Even when it was “appropriate” to take out I was never taught how to express it. This all took a very sudden turn three years ago when I was introduced to tantra as a safe and open way to connect intimately with people. It was like hearing a language that I didn’t know I already spoke and loved. Since then my sexuality has blossomed, and two years later I met Kypris.

Kypris can hold me. When I make love to her, we join. She creates a container for my sexuality. In it we are safe to explore what it means to be masculine and feminine. I can ravish her in love both physically and emotionally. She has taught me what it means for the feminine to be receptive, to transcend her fears of abandonment, of abuse, of rape, of need, to just be in the moment and let me be fully who I am in my masculine role. I can then learn to fill her container in the physical, but more importantly I can call on the power that I get when I am free to be completely myself. This freedom is the most precious gift that I can have. It allows me to completely explore what it means for me to be a sexual being. Within this safe container we have explored many tantric practices which always bring us to more and more astounding places. The union that I have with Kypris is so much more than anything I would have imagined possible before I met her. Her openness to explore every aspect of what it means for her to be alive always amazes me.

Together we bring these incredible experiences out into the world and share them with others. As Larry Flynt says, “Relax, it’s only sex”, and my god can it be good.

Love,

Steven and Kypris