Discerning

Mars Trine Mercury

“Don’t worry about your antennae, because there’s no way they’ll lead you astray. The advice of others may not be quite so reliable, but you’ll easily wade through what’s legit and what’s not — as long as you pay attention to the signs along the way.”—astrology.com

One of the side benefits of doing a daily shamanic practice is that my discernment has been getting sharper. I have been doing the powerful practice of feeling into what my HEART wants, rather than what my MIND wants. This has been especially effective in my dating life as I am making decisions about who I want to spend my time and energy with. In the past I often made these decisions from an intellectual place, trying to keep things fair and equal between my different lovers. But these days I am worrying less about what is proper or reasonable, and more about what feels appropriate to ME.

It’s been hard giving myself permission to work this way. My general strategy for life has always been about keeping everyone around me happy so that they will continue to like me. But then I think about how I continue to like my lovers even when they do things that aren’t my preference, or when they choose to spend their time on other priorities. I realize that if I am liked or loved, then I AM, and doing what is best for me isn’t going to change that.