Expressing Needs

Daily Couples Horoscope

It’s up to you to adapt gracefully to your sweetie’s weirdness, rather than the other way around. Things will get back to normal pretty soon, so try to keep the relationship nice and friendly. –astrology.com

Everybody has moods and shifts that affect their behavior. For me, learning to be tolerant of that in the people I love and not take it personally has made life SO much easier! At the same time, sometimes I go overboard with my tolerance and my own needs don’t get met. I can recognize that my needs aren’t getting met by the continuing feeling of unease I have about a particular situation or behavior. With my beloved I am learning that communicating these needs is part of getting closer.

Today we had one of those long, satisfying talks that seem to be our trademark. Afterward I felt more connected and happier than ever about being in relationship with him. During this talk it became really clear to me that I had not been asking enough for what I need. It can be hard for me to ask, because I carry this deep fear that asking my beloved to meet a need for me will lead to him deciding that being in relationship with me is too much work. The way for me to be courageous in this situation is to state my need clearly, gently, lovingly, and simply. It’s important for me during this process to listen carefully to his answer and to his concerns and feelings about my need. This leaves the way clear to also ask how I can HELP him meet my needs. Today working through this process led us to find a win-win solution and to a lot more ease and love in my heart. And thinking about him I’m just smiling….