Follow the Leader

Daily Couples Horoscope

Playing the leader is much more your speed than following, so why not be up-front about it? Tell your significant other that for now, you want to be in the driver’s seat, and they can relax and enjoy the ride.

How is it that this computer-generated horoscope is so darned accurate? Since my kindergarten days it’s been clear to the world (and to me) that I like to lead. One of my practices for the last several years was to let go of this need in romantic relationship so that my partner could have the opportunity to take charge. But I’m finding out something new about men—sometimes taking charge is more of a burden than they want, and having help from a woman in maintaining things is a blessing. Who knew?

All these years I’ve been thinking that I was too active in relationships, initiating too often, not allowing the other person to take charge more. I’ve been trying to learn to tone it down. But I’ve heard recently from both my beloved and a couple of past partners that they don’t want to do ALL the work of keeping a relationship going. So how to balance this with the tantric notion that a woman is meant to be magnetically receptive and let the man come to her? Not sure yet, but I know that the answer for me will be about BALANCE. I am dancing with balancing between asking clearly for what I need and still being totally open to letting my beloved lead when he feels called. Sometimes this can lead to the pleasant surprise of my beloved providing things that I didn’t even realize I needed. It’s a place of real sweetness at the moment, like honey….