How much love can you handle?

Have you ever noticed that it is easy to give, but oh, SO hard to receive?

Over the holidays, what do we focus on? We focus on what presents we are going to give to which person, and whether or not they will like it. And if we forget someone, we feel horrible. But do we focus on receiving gifts well? Do we make an effort to say thank you, and to show our appreciation for the gifts, and to put them to use right away in our life?

I have a receiving altar, AKA an abundance altar, in my bedroom. Whenever I receive ANYTHING, be it money, gifts, love notes, or a power object, I put it on my altar so that I can look at it several times each day and feel my gratitude for that gift in my heart. Then I make sure to start using that gift immediately if it is something I truly want to receive. And if it’s not? I pass it on to someone who is better suited to integrate that thing into their life.

This feels good to me, like I am finally starting to learn about the FLOW of abundance and love in life. Because let’s face it, gifts and money also have bits of LOVE attached to them. It is really hard to separate the two in my life. When someone gives me money for a session or an event or a book or video, it is because there is a bit of love in them for that thing that I’m providing. I get to feel that love when I receive the money into my life and send that love on when I spend the money. Do you see? Love and money are tied together.

Now I’m sure we’ll all agree that things have been challenging lately. We are in a bit of an economic downswirl, and I know it’s been frightening for many of us to feel the pinch. And fear can be so wonderful because it MOTIVATES. It has driven me to begin the process of making deep and lasting changes to my relationship with money, with love, and with sex.

I have talked about money and love, but what about SEX?

Here’s a newsflash for us all–take some time to let your partner give to you. Instead of focusing so much on how you can make them feel good, on how you can prove that you are the sexiest thing alive by showing off all your tantric positions and techniques, maybe just sit back and let yourself receive. Then give back. Then receive again. Let there be a give and take.

When I am receiving I have to be vulnerable, and that is scary. If I don’t respond with the appropriate orgasm or connection, if I am not able to receive because I am scared and I snap the energetic connection between us, then I fail. So when I have these feelings I just love myself more and say "open, open open—receive!". If I am giving, then I can get stuck in wanting to control, in expecting a certain response from my partner, in goals. When this happens I take a breath, come back into this moment and trust Spirit to guide me to a better place than I could ever imagine.

So when we get together for "Sex, Breath, and Intimacy" this Sunday, January 11th, we will focus on giving AND receiving love. We will be learning to breathe in the abundance of the universe, and to know there is no true scarcity of money OR of love.

I hope you can join us.

Kypris, Dakini and Shamanic Tantra Teacher holds a master’s degree in Biology, as well as a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology, and is an initiated HeartWisdom Tantric Priestess. She is the author of “Journey to Sexual Wholeness, The Six Gateways to Tantric Sexuality”.

Yabyummy is a teaching temple that provides a tantric path to gain sexual wholeness through breathwork, visualization, and tantric massage. We are committed to unifying sexuality with spirituality and spirituality with sexuality for growth minded men, women and couples.