Together and Apart

Daily Couple’s Horoscope

Sometimes your moods just don’t match, and right now the two of you may not be on the same page emotionally. Spending some time separately will help prevent potential irritation or a clash.–astrology.com

In my practice of True Love, time apart is just as important as time together. I wish I had known this in my married days. Back then, when my husband was in a bad mood, I would try to fix it by mothering him. Unfortunately, this only made him feel smothered and he would withdraw into computer games, TV, or reading, becoming almost completely unresponsive to my presence. I didn’t understand that he was trying to take care of himself, but thought his behavior meant that he didn’t love me, and that he didn’t appreciate the care and attention I was giving him. On my worst days I would start a fight to try to get him to pay attention to me.

The difference between then and now is night and day. I’ve learned that if I my beloved is in a mood, I ask him to TELL me if he wants support. If the answer is no, I let him take care of himself, and I do the same. And sometimes the shoe is on the other foot! Recently I had a grumpy day while spending time with my beloved, and I took myself off alone for an hour to meditate and nurture myself. When I came back and reconnected we had a fabulous evening together, and I knew it was only possible because of my bit of time alone. I try now to be like an Eagle, sometimes flying together with my mate to play and hunt, other times flying free and solo. Always there is the knowing that I will return to the nest to snuggle with my beloved when we are both ready.