Win-Win
by Kypris
March 18th, 2010
Even after lots and lots of discussion, there’s not much movement in the desired direction — whether they’re being stubborn or you are. Find a new way to get around this impasse. –astrology.com
When my beloved and I have differing desires about something, I do my best to say clearly what I want, and what my concerns are, without making his desires wrong. When it is more on the side of something I am doing that is a concern for him, I am learning to listen carefully to his concerns and do my best to see if there is any space in me for doing things differently.
When discussion isn’t working, then we have to agree to disagree for the time being, to let go of the outcome of our conversations. At that point I go and meditate, pray, talk to my trusted mentor, and take a shamanic journey to see if there is any new information, or any way that I can shift around the matter. Miracles often happen when I am willing to let go of forcing a solution. More than anything I prefer the win-win scenario to a compromise. A very wise friend of mine once said “Compromise is where you share the resentment 50-50”. Aho.
