F.A.Q.

How do I book a session?

What can I expect in my session?

What if I’m not happy with my session?

Do I have to work with both of you, or can I book a session with just one of you?

Do I have to be naked?

I would like to attend one of your events, but I am new to this. What can I expect?

I am coming from out of town. Where would you recommend I stay?

Do you have a mailing list?

So what is Tantra anyway?

What Does the "Yabyum" in Yabyummy mean?

What is a Puja?

Can you control premature ejaculation?

How can I build my sexual stamina?

What is a female orgasm?

What about female ejaculation?

What if I get ‘turned on’ during a session?

How do I book a session?
Contact Kypris at kypris@yabyummy.com or 760-522-2554. Or contact Steven at steven@yabyummy.com or 619-321-8599. We ask our new clients to begin by booking an initial consultation. During a consult we talk about your needs and goals in more detail, give you a more in-depth explanation of how Shamanic Tantra works, and create a plan of action for you to begin your journey with us. Initial consultations last 1 hour and cost $39.

What can I expect in my session?
White sessions last about one hour and usually focus on learning the basics of the spiritual practice of tantra, like breathing techniques, meditation, and energy movement through the body. Red sessions last two to four hours, and are usually appropriate after doing at least two white sesions with us. A red session usually begins with you receiving a massage while we coach you in breathwork and relaxation to move sexual energy through the body. Violet sessions last two to four hours and are focused on coaching a couple in opening and enhancing their connection to each other. However, every session is unique, and tailored to your individual needs. Because we work with a shamanic approach, we follow intuition in how we work with you, and go with the flow, led by your desires and our intuition.

What if I’m not happy with my session?
We offer a full money back guarantee, if for any reason you are unhappy with your session.

Do I have to work with both of you, or can I book a session with just one of you?
We most often work separately, but we also offer sessions together for an additional donation. Contact Kypris at kypris@yabyummy.com or 760-522-2554; Steven at steven@yabyummy.com or 619 321-8599.

Do I have to be naked?
No, your feeling of safety is most important to us, and we will work with any boundary you have.

I would like to attend one of your events but I am new to this. What can I expect?
There are many ways to approach learning something new and unfamiliar. The best advice we can give you is to always be as in tune as you can with your feelings. We recommend that you begin by attending several of our White Events. They are a great way to experience a Tantric connection without any additional worry about having to make boundaries around nudity or sexuality. If a group environment is too overwhelming, we would be happy to work with you privately, or you might choose to begin learning at home through self-study with our videos and book.

I am coming from out of town. Where would you recommend I stay?
There are lots of good 4 and 5 star hotel options near us. If you want to be on the beach, the Hotel Del Coronado is a nice option. It is on the Coronado island about 15 minutes from us. It is a beautiful historic building built in 1888 and a San Diego icon.

If you want to be in Downtown San Diego near the Gaslamp area we would suggest the W Hotel. Its much more trendy and will usually have a long line to get into the clubs on the weekend. The roof has a "beach" with heated sand and a pool. The W is about a 10 minute drive from us.

If you don’t mind being about 25 minutes away and want to be in a more quiet setting you can try the Hilton La Jolla Torrey Pines. The hotel is near the beautiful Torrey Pines Golf Course on the cliffs overlooking the Pacific, and has a great salt water pool and jacuzzi.

A closer option is the Park Manor Suites in Hillcrest. Its a beautiful old historic building with great rooms a block away from Balboa Park.

If you are looking for something more affordable, many of our clients like the Balboa Park Inn, which is within walking distance of our office.

Do you have a mailing list?
We have a newsletter that we periodically send out to tell you about upcoming events and share with you a personal experience that has helped us grow, which we hope will give you some insight into your own journey.

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So what is Shamanic Tantra anyway?
Tantra is a path to integrating your sexuality with your spirituality. Shamanic tantra teaches how to move your sexual energy through your body and use it intentionally to heal and strengthen you so that all of life becomes blissful, not just your sex life! For a more in depth look at our methods, take a look at Kypris’ blog, The Six Gateways to Sacred Sexuality.

Tantra as we teach it is about creating a deep intimate connection with yourself first, and then with your partner. Sexuality begins within you, and is not something generated by another person. We teach a path of integrating the heart, the mind, and the body, so that you can live a peaceful, loving, and passionate life.

What Does the "Yabyum" in Yabyummy mean?
We love this definition of Yab Yum (Source:www.yoniversum.nl/dakini/yabyum.html)

Tib., father-mother (in union with consort)

A Tibetan term that, literally translated, means father-mother. It is a phrase used for sexual union, similar to the Sanskrit maithuna, but can also be compared with the Chinese concept of the yin and yang energies permeating all of universe.

In the typical yab-yum pose, the couple faces each other with the woman sitting in or on the man’s lap. Deities in the yab-yum position, often found in sculptures and on thangkas, can be found in almost every temple and monastery of Vajrayana affiliation.

The yab yum position is… the position in which the flow of energies through the various channels and chakras can best be controlled and steered.

What is a Puja?
Puja is a spiritual ceremony where you acknowledge the Divine. What we do is a Tantra Puja, or a ritual where we acknowledge the Divine in each other through the practice of tantra.

A Yabyummy Tantra Puja usually involves sitting down in a circle and partnering up with a person of the opposite sex. We guide you through partnered meditations to help you experience the combination of spirituality and sensuality with another soul. You will spend about 5 minutes with this person before rotating to another person and doing a different mediation. In our white events the meditations may look like breathing together while you hold each other’s hearts, or maybe a touch exercise of lightly caressing each others arms.

Can you control premature ejaculation?
Tantra can certainly help with this. Take a look at our Lingam Massage Ritual for more information.

How can I build my sexual stamina?
There are many ways to increase your sexual stamina. Practicing tantra not only gives you control over your ejaculation but it does it in a way that makes your whole sexual experience more powerful. Our Lingam Massage Ritual is one way to begin, as well as other spiritual practices that include breathing and active meditation.

What is a female orgasm?
Women’s orgasmic responses vary widely, and it is possible to have many different types of orgasm, including clitoral, g-spot, uterine, combo, or full body. In addition, both men and women can experience an orgasm in any of their chakras.

What about female ejaculation?
Female ejaculation is the release of a fluid from the woman’s urethra during sexual stimulation. This fluid is also known as amrita, and its release is extremely healing and powerful for women, not to mention ecstatic! Female ejaculation can be learned through a series of simple exercises.

What if I get ‘turned on’ during a session?
Ok, this first one might sound silly, but what if I get ‘turned on’ during a session? Perhaps that’s a natural and expected side effect, but its still one that I’m nervous about. Also, do you ever get aroused during sessions?

This is a very god question. Because we are specifically working on sexual healing, it is perfectly natural to get aroused during a session and is really part of the healing process, to notice how you feel when you are aroused, to learn to stay in a meditative state while that arousal is happening (i.e., out of your head), and to learn what to do with the energy of that arousal to move it through you in a tantric way.

And yes, I often am aroused during a session, whether I’m working with a woman or a man, and again, that arousal state is part of the healing work. I feel it in my body and use that energy to pull my clients into the aroused state if they need that, or to make an energetic connection if that is what’s called for, or sometimes I use the sexual energy just to amp up the healing that moves through my hands. It all depends on the individual. The thing I do want to reassure you about is that the sexual energy will never be directed at you in any way without your permission. Throughout the red session I always repeatedly check in with my clients about their boundaries and their comfort level with where and how I am touching them, and where they are ready to move to next. Your safety and comfort are important in this process.

We invite you to visit us in San Diego, CA
Kypris Drake, M.S., M.A. at kypris@yabyummy.com or 760 522-2554
Dr. Steven Jay at steven@yabyummy.com or 619 321-8599