Self Pleasure Ritual (Women)
Explore your body as if for the first time
Self pleasure and masturbation are one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself. To explore your body with loving compassion; to allow yourself the time and space to feel pleasure; and to know that you are worth giving and receiving this pleasure are some of the most powerful steps to becoming sexually and spiritually whole.
First make yourself comfortable in your bed and give yourself permission to take some time to play. Turn your phone off, light some candles, turn on some sensual music, set up your environment as if you were going to have a lover over. You are your best lover after all 
Visualize a time and place in your life that you felt connected to spirit, when your heart felt open and good. If you have a mediation practice then it may simply be when you are meditating. The first time I felt it was when I was 14 and on a sailboat at night far out at sea. I saw the stars and the milkyway in their true glory for the first time. I didn’t know what I was feeling at the time but looking back I know it was spirit because it felt good in my heart. Since then I know I feel connected to spirit when I am out in nature, when I am dancing, at yoga, when I feel the sun on my face, when I meditate, when I take a deep breath and reconnect to my body and the present moment, when I teach, and of course when I make love.
Once you have this visualization in your head slowly undress yourself and lie down on your bed. Make yourself comfortable with pillows and blankets. Now place your hands on your heart and take a deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Keep doing this while you visualize the feeling of connectedness to spirit. Don’t worry about visualizing the place just the feeling and breath, in through the nose and out through the mouth. As you do this you may start to feel your body come alive, tingle, feel good. This may take a while so just keep breathing, visualizing the feeling of spirit and holding your heart, without judgment.
Through this whole practice you will have times when your mind wanders, when you go into sexual fantasy, when you trance out, when you have thoughts of work or how silly this is… When you realize you are having these thoughts just thank your mind for doing what it thinks will keep you safe, tell that little voice in your head that you love it and that you can keep it safe now. Take a deep breath and come back into the present moment, reconnecting to the feeling of spirit in your body and simply continue.
As you breath with your hands on your heart you will start to feel; good, sad, mad, joyous… Just let yourself have these feelings. When it feels appropriate begin to caress your breasts. The trick here is to stay present to the feeling and not go into fantasy. Imagine that you have never touched yourself before and simply feel what it feels like to caress your breasts. In tantra we don’t have any goals. You are not trying to make yourself feel good or have an orgasm. You are just breathing, connecting to spirit and caressing yourself lovingly. Again just go back to the breath whenever you feel yourself going into old patterns. The breasts are the gateway to a goddesses sexuality so awaking them first before moving to the rest of the body is a beautiful practice.
You may start to feel light headed or tingles in your hands. As your breasts awaken you will feel drawn to explore the rest of your body. Play with yourself. Touch yourself lightly and slowly. A good measure is that you should be moving as slowly as you are breathing. Stay with this exploration of your body for as long as you can before moving to your yoni. Massaging the yoni in a tantric present way is a whole practice in itself so do your best and have fun with the rest of your masturbation. 
Namaste
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July 22nd, 2008 at 10:10 am
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